DON'T RAISE BOYS....

I do watch Nickelodeon you know ,and during an interview with the JONAS BROTHERS and their PARENTS, they were asked ….

“So how do you keep your boys grounded….with the fame and attention and all…?”

THE PARENTS answered…

“We give them lotsa love and always remind them of their purpose …we are not raising BOYS here, we are raising MEN who needs to be responsible adults and good members of the society….!”

(hmmmmmm!! light bulb moment for me…)

Having two sons of my own, I can’t help but worry how they might turn out once they are all grown up since they now belong to the club whose some of the members had been exercising violence against the female gender… (On the note of the International Women’s Day celebrated worldwide this month)

Firstly, should we let “boy” be the term used only for the gender column of our newborn son on the hospital name bracelet….?

When a boy grows up ,don’t be fooled by his physics ( tall, dark, handsome, strong) , because on the inside he might still be that little boy who is insecure, deprived of love and attention, angry etc

In my opinion “BOYS” are the ones who abuse wives, rape sisters and make mothers lives a living hell because they NEVER GROW UP! They remained to be “boys” for the rest of their lives …….

Mr & Mrs Jonas’s method of raising their children could be something to ponder…

Therefore, parents out there, don’t raise ‘boys”, raise “men” who APPRECIATES wives, CARE for their sisters and make mothers lives heavenly.

I’m sure all of us strive to provide the best education, comfort and all the ‘material’ requirements that our sons need…. however, if you haven’t done these in a long time (or maybe never ..yet) please consider....i'm sure it's not too late...

ESPECIALLY for sons below 13 years of age…

Hug and kiss your son (esp before he goes to sleep) and let him know that you are thankful to Allah for loaning him to you …

Tell him how much you love him and give salam (assalamualaikum…good nite) before you leave his room

When he’s asleep recite in his ears…Ya Latiff…Ya Aziz…Ya Wadud…(Maha lembut….maha perkasa….maha penyayang) as many times u like

Always remind them that you depend on him to care for his sister for the rest of her life…for him to make sure that his sister mix with the right kinda friends , that everytime she goes out of the house covering her aurat , and that she will always have a brother to share all her problems with (ni penting ni!!)

If your son shows interest in cooking or baking or cleaning , encourage him to help in the kitchen…never ever throw your son out of the kitchen and say that cooking or cleaning is a women’s job……NEVER!!

Hopefully, insyaAllah he will grow up to be a man who is SECURE, RESPONSIBLE AND HAPPY CITIZEN , a man who truly understands his purpose on earth.

Remember, an abusive man is not always uneducated or from a broken home….there are highly educated men who rape and men with high status who abuse …..renung2kanlah...